I hate shopping


I feel like I have a damaged second X chromosome. I thought all women loved to shop — especially for shoes and clothes. But I can’t stand it. I hate trying stuff on. I hate crowds.  I hate spending money.

I can’t think of anything good about shopping for clothes, except that you have new clothes at the end of it. I’m not a huge fan of new clothes, though. So that’s little incentive. However, since my weight has rapidly fluctuated during and after pregnancy, I have almost nothing to wear. For serious.  Up until last week, when my husband begged me to buy jeans for the first time in over 20 years, I had maybe 2 pairs of pants that actually fit and looked somewhat decent.

So, a VERY generous relative has given me a wonderful gift of some special gift cards for Nordstrom that expire at the end of the week. So I HAVE to go out shopping today.  I thank her not only for the gift certificates, but I also thank her for giving me ones soon to expire because it forces me not to procrastinate.

I was going to just buy Christmas gifts for the family or baby clothes for Genie Houdini (not her real name), my almost 3 month old daughter. However my husband BEGGED me to get myself new clothes because he can’t stand my wardrobe. That’s a pretty sorry state. He’s as tightwad as me and cares about clothes almost as little as I do.  So here I goTo alleviate my hatred of shopping, I put some pre-planning into things. This way, I won’t just wander into Nordstrom and flail about.

  • FIRST, I googled “wardrobe staples” so I knew what I should be looking for. I found The Chic Fashionista : Wardrobe Essentials lthe to be the best for my needs.  I didn’t have to examine my wardrobe to see what was missing. I assumed that it was ALL missing.
  • Then I went to the Nordstrom site and started looking at my most needed items. I loved the setup of their site. I could look up clothes, add the sizes and colors I wanted. Then I could check and see if they were in one of the nearest two stores. If they were in stock, I added it to a wishlist.  Now I can just print out the list of what I want with all the sizes, colors and even the special numeric code so that someone can quickly help me find what I’m looking for.
  • If what I want doesn’t look good on me or fit as well, then I can browse, but my list will help me keep in mind what I’m looking for so I don’t panic and just go buy a ton of baby clothes. Maybe I’ll even be brave enough to force a clerk to help me out.
  • I put a lot more on my list than I can afford to buy, and then I prioritized what I needed. This offers a lot of options for me. I will go to what I need first, rather than what’s the closest. I REALLY need a dress coat, but I slightly need stud earrings. I don’t want to spend up on the earrings because they are closer to the door than the coats.  If  nothing on my list or in that department works out, I can go to the next most needed item. I can only remember a few things at a time, so I won’t end up wandering around hopelessly lost if I don’t find a good coat.

Here is what is on my list:

Dress Winter Coat — I need this. I have a ratty old parka and a dress coat that I can’t zip up. Not good enough. All the coats on my list are machine washable. I am a slob and have a baby, so this is vital to my plan. I have 4 on the list

Dress winter boots — I can never find a pair I both like and fits well. So I’m not holding my breath. I have 2 on the list.

2 Button down sweaters. I’m breastfeeding, so I need button downs. Other shirts and sweaters just cause problems. There are 7 on my list.

2 Button down oxfords — There are only 2 on my list, and they are nice and well tailored. I’m hoping not to go this far down on the list, because this is stuff I could get at Target much cheaper and very similar. I only put ones on this list that I thought looked so nice that they were noticeably too fine  to get at a cheaper place.

Stud diamond (or diamond-like) earrings. I really need to get jewelry.  But this is something I hate shopping for even more than clothing. So it’s on the list.

Bangle bracelet. Probably won’t get this because while I need more jewelry, I hate wearing bracelets. I’d get one for special occasions.

I am hoping that with this gift certificate this plan, my mother-in-law donating babysitting time, some bottles full of breast milk and some sweet talking to get me to go out in the cold will lead me on my first step to a better dressed lady.

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